Baldur’s Gate 3: How to Romance Astarion

Find the quickest path to a night of passion with our guide on how to romance Astarion in Baldur’s Gate 3

It’s only been days since Baldur’s Gate 3’s massively successful launch, and the internet has already fallen head over heels for Astarion, a notable origin character in the game with a dark past. If you’re looking for the fastest way to get romantic with the silver-haired rogue, our romance options guide has you covered. Here’s the definitive guide on how to romance Astarion in Baldur’s Gate 3.

Where to Find Astarion

You first meet the silver-haired rogue in the first hours of Act 1. After you emerge from the Nautiloid ship, find the Roadside Cliffs and head southwest. Astarion will be waiting near a cliff by the road, dagger in hand. Interact with him and choose the best dialogue options to get him to join your party. If you’re successful, he’ll join your group as a quick and stealthy assassin rogue.

Astarion Approval Guide

Companions in Baldur’s Gate 3 pay attention to your choices in-game, and will either approve or disapprove based on their individual personalities. Astarion stands out as the most chaotic of the bunch. That said, any choice that leads to you being a boring pacifist will bore him. Inversely, choosing clever dialogue options that deceive or impress will likely earn you the mischievous adventurer’s respect.

With that, you can catch Astarion’s ruby eye by making decisions that:

• Support Astarion’s Ideals
• Accept his special “condition”
• Empathize with other creatures of evil nature (eg. Goblins, Devils, etc.)
• Show no pity towards inferior beings
• Be cruel to other people
• Let him bite you

On the other hand, Astarion disapproves when you:

• Protect the vulnerable
• Exercise restraint
• Don’t try to understand his condition
• Act like a hero

Full disclosure: Astarion in Baldur’s Gate 3 may feel unintuitive when you’re running a paragon playthrough, so it might feel icky when you have to offend the NPCs sometimes. But if you’re willing to compromise on a few dialogue choices, you’ll be entertaining Astarion’s fantasies in no time.

Astarion Romance Guide – Act 1

You’ll get your first opportunity to romance Astarion after saving First Druid Halsin from the Goblin Camp and completing the side-quest “Save the Refugees”. During the festivities, approach Astarion and select the following speech options to successfully romance him:

• Really? Saving lives is awful?
• True, the goblins would have thrown a wilder party.
• And what’s your idea of ‘a little fun’?
• All right, let’s do it. I’ll see you later.

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Picking this path will give you a new interaction option for your bedroll. Choose to go to bed with Astarion. Afterwards, a new scene will give way to another flirtatious conversation. The finish line’s in sight! Answer Astarion with these dialogue options during the midnight cutscene to unlock a night of passion.

• You don’t have me yet.
• And what do you want?
• Nod

From there, future romance options for Astarion will appear obvious as you deepen your relationship with the dashing hedonist. He can be a dark and selfish character, but underneath all that sinister sarcasm are centuries of struggle, and a gentle soul that yearns for what everybody wants. Remember: outrageous and theatrical choices will get you to where you need to go, and if you follow these simple steps, you’ll be going all the way in no time.

That’s all you need to know to romance Astarion in Baldur’s Gate 3. If you’re still feeling around the game and it’s massive amounts of content, check out our complete beginner’s guide.

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